To come or not to come: “Are you coming?”
Dear all, It has been a while since the last blog post and I feel it is time to bring something new to your attention. And up for discussion. As talking about British winter definitely won’t do !!
Recently I received a nice comment asking if it is ok to come multiple times during a session. At the other end of the spectrum I see clients who miss the energy to achieve a good erection. Especially when we are not that young anymore that is not always something that comes natural.
During my work I see clients who are young but also clients who are much older. Every age group has it’s own specific problems. Some of my young clients are worried about coming to quickly or multiple times. Some older clients might worry not to achieve a sufficient happy ending (erection, orgasm during the massage) or in some cases none at all.
First of all let me say this about it: For me it doesn’t matter !! Nobody comes to my sessions to perform. You come here to relax, to be spoiled. To receive my London Tantric massage that will reconnect you with your self and with your sensuality.
I can imagine having a client here with no erection at all. And he will still have a great time, rest assured !!
Coming too early or earlier than you like can be treated during special ejaculation control sessions. If you are interested in this let me know before the session starts please. Because if you have ejaculated after five minutes it is a bit late……
During those sessions I will teach you to ride the wave. I build up the energy inside you but not too much. The moment you are about to ejaculate I back off by focusing on a different part of your body. We do this a couple of times until in the end you let go either outwards by ejaculating or by reaching an internal orgasm. Also called a dry orgasm. Your personal choice entirely !!
For clients who struggle with getting an erection there is the option of taking a stimulant like Viagra. Nothing wrong with that. If it works it works. But alternatively in stead of taking a stimulant you can try to take your time and relax. As I said earlier on nobody comes here to perform. Let me do my massage and let me take care of you. Don’t think about an erection but just let your self go. And you might be surprised about your self…….
Many erection problems have a psychological background. Once you are aware that arousal doesn’t come that quickly anymore one starts to focus on it. And that doesn’t help at all. One becomes to aware of it and the result is nerves and most likely no erection.
Remember Tantric massage is there to awaken and revisit ones sensuality. To restart it . The build up in the massage is orientated at that. The first part is there to relax you. The body to body and the overall middle part is there to arouse and stimulate you. And the last part is there to go to the top of the mountain, enjoy the view and than run down.
If anybody has problems in this field please feel free to contact me. Either in person during a session or write me an email or call me if it is too personal for here on the blog.
It is fantastic that so many of my clients have shared their thoughts here with me. A lot of posts came in related to the question if going for Tantric massage is cheating or not. It made it very clear that there is no single answer to that question. I was moved by the sincerity of many answers.
Thank you so much everybody for sharing these sensitive issues. We can all support one another with this and learn from each other’s experiences.
Have a lovely day and see you soon !!